Bullied at 5
Preschool was great for my son! He made friends, socialized with the other kids, and got invited to several Birthday parties. I never knew the following year would change so dramatically. When he started kindergarten everything changed for the worse. The teacher kept telling me my son was ADHD and needed meds. She starting sending him home everyday around lunch time. She said that was all he could handle for the day. I took him to the doctor and they agreed that he was ADHD. Even though I was hesitant about it, I let them start him on meds. The meds seem to make things worse. He got lathargic and seem to just drift away. I constantly got notes sent home from the teacher, saying things like "your son is not paying attention," and "your son is in la la land." There were phone calls constantly from the teacher, saying he doesn't seem normal. You can imagine my frustration. I started going up to the school and joining in on class. I noticed that he was one of the better behaved kids, but the teacher seemed to make comments like, "your coloring out of the lines. Didn't you take your meds today?" and "You should know how to tie your shoes. Didn't you take your meds today?" I had a talk with her and the principal, but it only made things worse. The students began to pick on him as well. I had him taken of the meds, cause I didn't feel he was ADHD. I thought the problem was with the teacher and the other kids picking on him. The bullying got worse in the years to come. And let me tell you, the school got sick of seeing my face. My son would come home with bloody knees and lay in his bed crying. He wouldn't eat his dinner. He drifted away from everyone. I cried all the time, while trying to figure out how to handle it. I got no support from the school what-so-ever. Finally, I pulled him out of school and home schooled him. I ended up getting divorced and my son was put back into that same school. With joint custody and everything going on, it was the only thing we could do. He continued to get bullied until he started middle school. Let me tell you what a world of difference it made when he started a new school. The teacher and people in the office were actually on my side. It was the same school district, just a different school. They MADE the bullying stop. He began making friends and sticking up for himself. He started high school this year and he grew like a weed. He is 14 years old and 6'4". Some kids try to pick on him, but he has learned to not let it bother him. Maybe it's his size. I don't know, but I thank God that things are better for him. He remembers everything that happened to him in Elementary and when he walks by that teacher he won't even look at her. I can't say I blame him. I feel for anyone that goes through what he went through and any parent that was in my situation.
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