School peer pressure is the most common type of peer pressure. It happens to our children on a daily basis. Teaching them to make the right choices is the key to helping them to be able to deal with any situation when we're not around to make it for them.
Peer pressure is a form of bullying and it seems to affect kids in school more than anyone else. Most kids have a desire to "fit in." It's the most common type of peer pressure and it can be a bit overwhelming for the person involved. We can't always stop everything that goes on in school or control who our kids' friends are, but we can help them in many ways. Talking to your children is the most important way. Ask them questions without sounding like your "drilling" them. Find out what their interests are, what they wanna be when they grow up, what kind of music they like etc...Getting involved is the key.
Letting your child know you care and that you are interested in what they have to say will build their self-esteem. It will make them feel safe and not afraid to come to you when they have a question or concern. The more you know what's going on in their lives, the more you'll be able to help. It's never too late to build a child's self-esteem and make them feel important.
School Peer Pressure doesn't have to take over your child's life
Tips For Helping Your Child With School Peer Pressure
* Build your child's self-esteem
If your child has good self-confidence they can get through a lot that life has to throw at them. They're not as afraid to say no and walk away. We need to help build that for them.
* Communicate with your child
Let them know you care and you want to hear everything they have to say. Find out what's going on in their life without sounding like you're "drilling them" with questions. Stop talking and listen. What they have to say is important. Remember when we were children? I look back sometimes and wonder why I stressed so bad about little things, but back then it wasn't just little. It was how I felt and it was important to me.
* Talk to the school
Sometimes it doesn't always help to talk to the schools. They can't control everything that goes on. But it's just as important to let them know. The school counselor is probably the best person to talk to. They can get to know your child one on one and spend more time with them, getting to know what's going on in their life and who's bothering them.
* Bond with your child
Bond with your child by making it a point to spend some one on one time with them. I know we get overwhelmed with work, tasks, and siblings, but it's important to put your children on the top of that priority list. Make dates with them individually. Children tend to open up more when they don't have others tagging along. Depending on the age of your child, their are several things you can do with them.
Make a play date at the local park
Hang out for a couple hours at the mall
Go for a walk
Go to the local arcade
Play a board game
Bake some goodies when you two are alone
Build a city with some legos
Make a picnic and go in the backyard
Read a book together
Be creative! Find out what your child likes and spend some quality time. I think you'll be surprised at how much they open up to you when your alone doing something they like.
* Join a support group or create one of your own
Other people that have gone through or are going through the same thing you are, can give great advice. Hearing how they handled a certain situation and getting tips on how to handle yours, will help you to not feel so lost and confused. Understanding school peer pressure will help you to feel more confident in being able to help your child deal with it and to make the right choices.
My son and I were in the car a few days ago. He is now 15, but started getting bullied when he was only 5. He mentioned how weird it was that now he's in high school kids try to be around him and the kids that once bullied him now want to be his friend. I asked him what it was that he thought changed for him. How did things go from being so bad to finally good? His response was, "I think it was my confidence. I never let people know they were bothering me. I just always shook my head and walked away when they tried to get me to do things or tried to pick on me." I think it helped him through the hard times by constantly telling him he was better than that and he was gonna make something special of his life when he grew up. Maybe those words of encouragement stuck in his head and he realized he doesn't need to do bad things to be a good person. He didn't let school peer pressure take over his life. I'm so proud of my son!